Change is good. Most people agree its great to change. We change Presidents every four years, we eat different foods and watch different shows but when it comes to change in yourself it seems everyone is a naysayer. I have recently embarked on a path that is changing me daily to become a better person. I am quite happy with my progress this far but realize there is a long way to go.
The frustrating thing to me though is when folks say “you’ll never change,” “you are who you are,” and worse “you can’t change.” Its not only demoralizing to me its harmful to that person. Let’s face it, we all need to change something and change is not easy when it comes to oneself. By saying to others they can’t change its easier to accept the stagnation within.
I have recently learned from hearing that one too many times to use it as motivation to make huge changes. I am not the same person I was last week. I am not the same person I was this morning. In fact, I have changed in the last hour but one thing I know I am is a person ever changing for the better!
As most of you will notice, my last few posts have less to do with digital marketing and more to do with my person growth. I just wanted to drop you all a quick note to say this blog is undergoing changes. I will still talk about digital marketing but I also want to interject some temporary diary type thoughts into it.
If you would like to skip over these posts feel free. Its just that I decided I want to put my thoughts onto the page in order to better understand where I came from and where I want to go. So to go with the divergence, I have retitled the top page to say “Stephen Tompkins Writes About Anything but Mostly Digital Marketing.”
Also feel free to post any questions of thoughts you may have as I enter this new introspective phase of my life.
So on with the “anything!”
Today marks the 27th anniversary of my father Stephen Malone Tompkins Sr. passing away. I remember vividly being told by my Stepmom in my bedroom at the time. My mind did not have any idea what it meant. I did not even know he was sick for the last year of his life or maybe I did and could not grasp it.
In many ways it seems so foreign to me now after all the things that have happen in those 27 years. A wonderful stepfather, great mother and loving brothers and sisters have all helped me to be who I am today. And, I try not to regret many things about the early years either but its hard to not regret ever being able to play catch or tell him about a new job. I guess in many ways I have lived with this part of my life missing.
Over the last year, a perfect storm of emotional events have set themselves upon me and brought all this to the surface where I have decided to sort it out once and for all within. Most of my life I have been living with all my feelings or emotions somewhere other than where they should be and its a real unhealthy way to live. I am not going to file them in the right spot to make my life more meaningful.
Being told at six year’s old that your father was no longer going to be in your life is an interesting thing. I think in many ways it resonated inside and wired my feelings to be hidden from the very start. I cannot recall the last time I told my Mom I love her. I am not even sure why I don’t but I believe it has to do with this early start. The good news is that its never too late to get them rewired. Mom - I love you!
The recent events in my life have caused me to reflect on my life and take a very long hard look at it. The above thoughts were never really on the surface until now. I am still not fully sure how to actualize the things I feel but I can guarantee I am well on my way to it. My life in many ways is just now beginning and I am going to take full advantage from here.
So look out world, you’re all mine. I am ready to listen to you and learn from everyone out there.
-Side Note-
I also wanted to say that I have a wonderful Step-Father who to me is the most amazing person I know and I do not want to take anything away from him. I actually feel like my real Father hand picked him from heaven to look after me. He is just amazing and I want to say thanks to him and my mother for everything they have done for me and this post is in no way a reflection on them.
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